Have you ever wanted to scream so loud that you almost lose your voice? I sure have, particularly in regard to one thing -- forgiveness. Sometimes thinking too much about this topic gives me gray hairs.
I know I'm very prideful when it comes to admitting that I'm wrong. My motto is "I'm right, you're wrong."
Hey, why should you be right? Can't you just admit that you're wrong?
I recall a fight I had once while on the road with a loved one about driving directions. If you haven't figured it out already, getting lost while driving in a strange city and trying to find accurate directions from local gas stations three times within one hour usually ends in an argument.
Now you're mad at each other, can't stand to be in the same car, and wished you were wearing one of those TMJ retainers right about now. But is getting into a fight over something as tedious as driving directions worth arguing about? Probably not.
A friend once told me, "If one of us wins this argument, nobody wins." That almost sounded like a cop out. It's not that great to be a loser, but I soon realized, when it comes to forgiveness, it's even worse to be a winner.
How do I handle this particular situation? Prayer -- a lot of it!
I begin something like this: "Lord, help me! Give me humility. How can I forgive this person who obviously has a hard time admitting he's wrong?!" Yet if I can't forgive this person, how can I expect You to forgive me?
In 2 Corinthians 2:10-11, Jesus says, "When you forgive this man, I forgive him, too. And when I forgive him (for whatever is to be forgiven), I do so with Christ's authority for your benefit, so Satan will not outsmart us" The Book. If I expect forgiveness from the other person, I should apply it to myself first.
And when you love someone, "love does not demand its own way" (1 Corinthians 13:5). "Love is not irritable, and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. It is never glad about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance" (1 Corinthians 13:5-7).
Next time when you and your loved one get the wrong directions, try following Jesus' path. I'm sure you'll get the right directions from Him rather than the gas station attendant.
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